Friday Sharing w/You

Friday, October 14

 FSYQ Business Card June 2016

2016 FSY Week 042 - Be Humble





Hello Friday Friends & PengYiu,

Please join me in advocating:

Make Money & Love Safety

赚钱第一; 安全在我心! & 明天一定会更好!加油哦

Jana Wang, Cinta Keselamatan


Quick Quotable

“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” ~Buddha


Quick Question

Why is there a comma?

Because with FSY there is no (F)Full (S)Stop between (Y)You & FSY.



Today Sharing:

Some asked me what have I done one thing that I never done before in my life?  I told him this year I did three things that I never did before


  • Travel with my wife and 2 children to New Zealand
  • Bungee jumping, on 20 April
  • Last Sunday, October 9, marks the 3rd event; The 60th Birthday Bash for the Tampines Primary School Graduating Class of 1968.


Children, don’t forget your Dads, like you, has a childhood, but it might be different.


Your Dad has his own precious childhood. We didn’t play computer games or chase Pokemon. We played Hum-Tam-Bola, shooting marbles, 5 stones, Hide & Seek, and we also went flying kites (literally).


I always think that due to my short-term memory loss, I’ve totally forgotten about my childhood and the 6 years I’ve attended primary school… Until last Sunday (9 Oct 2016). I hardly recognised my own face in our annual class photos. The ladies, after 48 years, were able to remember even the tiniest of details just by looking at the old school photos. While eating and talking, we slowly identified who was who in the photos, thanks to their wonderful memory. In fact, I couldn’t even recognise myself — one of them had to point it out! Again, we have to thank these ladies who have treasured all these old school photos and remembered all these things. I hope that our children will not say that our generation has the tendency to hoard stuff.


Our children have yet to realise that their Dads have gone through this journey before.


This gathering has made those sleeping neuron cells, deep inside the back of my brains, wake up and say, “Hey! Your dad has had a childhood! Dads are not just Dads that suddenly appear in front of their children. They had a childhood, like everyone else, and we do have fun times, less homework, zero tuition, zero piano lessons, no swimming classes — we swam wherever and whenever we found water. Although, it is rare to find any kampong boys who can’t swim. I am just that, a monkey that can’t swim. I prefer to swing around in nature. Anyway, mountain walks and mountain climbing are activities that allow me to feel the mindfulness of being here, being present, and as a bonus keeps me healthy.


There is something that I had forgotten, but I now recall; Our school was shut down, and we all had a few days off. However, we were told that we must stay at home or indoors, as there was a riot in our kampong due to racial riots between the Malay and Chinese. I think I was in primary 2 then. The 1964 racial riots were a series of riots that took place in Singapore then. You can google it. That was just some incident from the good old days.


This Graduating Class of 1968 gathering has made me realise that not only do I have a childhood, I was quite an intelligent (Not Smart) boy, competing with other intelligent boys and girls in class A. In the old days, when they put you in class A, you had to be quite a smart-aleck. I realise that I hardly studied, and playing was always on my mind.


I used to tell my children that if I had completed my studies and mastered English, I might have become a lawyer. When I got older and did some self-studying and self-reflection, I realised that I am quite an abnormal person. I always do things opposite of what people would normally do. I do not conform because I realized that I’m a lefty! I used this as my strength to further improve myself. Fast forward, I nevertheless achieved what my dad envisioned; that I would work in a big factory environment with large overhead cranes above my head and huge machinery.


Yeah! I accidentally landed myself in the Oil and Gas Industry for 33 years, where the organisation manufactured wellheads and Christmas Trees equipment for Oil exploration all over the world. It was much bigger than what my dad envisioned for me because I worked in a Multi-National Company based in Houston, America. BTW, my dad was the chief chef in a cargo ship. He travelled around the world. I, too, got the chance to travel around, just like my dad. Since my dad was a chef, I had to master a dish. At least, I am able to cook a signature fried rice dish that my children love to eat all the time.


My mom thought I would lead a more caring way of life, like Mother Teresa. Surprisingly I had completed the seven-day adventure course in the study of Christianity. If I had kept all my bible books, I think it will fill up at least one level of my bookshelf. But things change. I visited a Buddhist bookstore in Chinatown, and I read a book about Buddhism. I found my inner self and belief were leaning towards Buddhism, rather than Christianity.


Did Buddha say that if you reach the shore, leave my teaching behind? Yes, I think so. At the end of every workshop that I conduct, I usually end the same way Buddha did. Leave whatever I teach you behind, and explore for yourself. The answers or the understandings that you discover for yourself on your unexpected quality journey after my workshop will add values to your life. I also tell those who attend my workshop that I hardly advise people on what they should do as what works for me might not work for you. What you learnt from me are my personal experiences and my stories, not yours. You have to create your own answers, your own experiences, and your own stories.


After 48 years, we are now all in our 60s.

Looking back, my memories from childhood actually don’t seem to be too (F)Funny (S)Specific or (Y)Younique, but I just have this general feeling of knowing that my parent loved me and my siblings and that we were safe.


I know the details will be different for my own children. They were born in a different era, where things are technology-driven and we were born from the mechanically-driven. Our generation worked and learned about hard labour through our hands-on experience. Our children’s generation works and learns through outsourcing and Google. We spelled the word ‘You’ in you, three letters and they spell in one letter ‘U’. We raise our children ourselves, they outsource raising their children to us.


To my fourth question of my 4 questions

  • What
  • So what
  • Now what
  • What’s next?


What’s next?

 After the hehes and hahas !!!

Moving forward there will be different moments, different events, and different memories that remain with us. But my hope is that we will have this same general feeling of being loved all our lives, and no matter how old we are going forward, we will always know that God, or for me, Buddha, is always looking out for us. I don’t know who is the monkey that has a his name initials “ABC” – But nevertheless bring  these 3 words with you – (A)Always (B)Be (C)Careful in whatever you do and whatever unexpected quality journey you are heading.


When is the last time you heard a heartfelt “thank you?” Hopefully, it wasn’t too long ago!  I just want to do just that – thank you for all you do in leading this event. The long hours, the late night calls, the endless flow of WhatsApp texts, etc.  And for sharing your heart through the stories, the teaching of balancing the 13 nails onto one nail, the wisdom video, and God’s Words.


My last thought:

Today, to save our troubled world, we need only one word – LOVE.


Thank for reading


With gratitude


Until We Meet Here Next Friday… Be Humble


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My FSY’s sharing is unscientifically and some are contributed by wife & children, friends, acquaintances. I write and share things that matter to me. I understand that everyone have their own opinions, views, & thoughts. There are no right or wrong answers. Nothing is true or untrue, most facts and data can be twisted to your favour.

To the authors, contributors and original sources, my thanks and where appropriate my apologies if I forget to quote your names.  If I took a page from your generous sharing and tweaked it into something else, something I hope will spread and the whole purpose is for sharing and sharing is caring.